Don't just hope ...DECIDE!

Don't just hope ...DECIDE!

Author Steven Covey reminds us that we are all in the habit of responding to others.

We live with constant stimulus around us every day. Intentions are always influenced by stimulus. Within each of us, between the stimulus and our response is a space.

In that space lies our choice which is influenced by other people and ourselves.

We often begin with good intentions, but self-doubt and the influence of others cause the results to be much different from the intentions.

Most people are products of their intentions rather than their decisions. In other words, there are more good intentions that never happen than there are great decisions with real results.

Do you want to make a positive change in your life and in the lives of others?

If so you must make some decisions that will take you out of your comfort zone. And you must follow through with those decisions NO MATTER WHAT.

After you begin your change, you will have to re-decide ... again and again and again.

Believe in yourself. "I can persist in spite of inevitable setbacks or negative feedback."

Don't allow others to influence your decisions. You alone must develop your vision, passion, discipline and willpower. It's your life, your goal and your decision. Don't just hope ... DECIDE.

"He who has a real why can live with any how." Steven Covey

Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

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Missing Links

So I have been asked why I removed a couple of the links that I had on here previously. And I chose to do so because they were not relevant to this blog.

As bloggers know, you want to keep the content relevant to what you are doing...So it was a business decision that I made. I don't think it's right to add funny cartoons if I'm discussing how a 57 year old lady just lost her job of 27 years. I'm keeping it relevant.

I mentioned awesome sources that are not even related to my type of work in a previous post "I'm A Twitter". Definitely check them out.

I will keep this blog STRICTLY related to my business and add only content that is related. And other sources of work at home.

I'm sure that other bloggers/business's understand that decision.


Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.

What Is This VALUE Thing We Are Supposed To Be Giving?

Here is a great article written by Deborah Tutnauer. This puts it into perspective:

No matter where you go today, particularly in the online marketing work..."giving value" is the buzz phrase. Those in the know talk about it..those who don't give it are reprimanded on sites like BN and Twitter. My question to you is..do you really know what "Value" is? How can you tell if you are "giving value"? Is there a particular thing that defines "giving value", or can it only be determined in the negative..Such as, "pitching your opportunity is NOT giving value"?

Having been (hopefully) "giving value" online for a few years now, I have some answers..but would love to hear yours as well. Feel free to post comments at the end of this post.

When you give value to others, you are offering services or information that addresses what THEY are needing, wanting or looking for. Your focus is on your audience, not on yourself. You may be an expert in PPC...but if you start blabbering away about PPC and CTR and conversions to someone who wants to know how to write an ezine article..then you are NOT giving value (to that person at that moment).

In conversation it is easier to figure out how to offer value than it is in writing. Why do I say this? Because when you are speaking with someone you have the opportunity to truly listen to what they are saying and to discern their needs. In fact, you may have heard that the best sales skill in the world is Listening. There is no way you can adequately relate to, nor assist someone unless you take the time to really listen to and HEAR their problems and concerns. (The art of good listening can be an entire book...so maybe I'll write it when I'm done here.)

It is harder to offer value when you are writing in forums, blogs, social media, etc...because you have to assume you are addressing topics that your audience is interested in and wants to learn about. This is where it is important to define your target audience. Before you put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard, take the time to get a clear picture in your mind of who it is you are speaking to. Write it down. Think in terms of categories and try to separate out a number of smaller niches in your broad categories. For instance:

Women Network Marketers..
single women network marketers with kids
retired women network marketers with large social connection
women who want part time income for fun money
Women who need a substantial income in order to quit their job and be a stay at home mom.

You get the idea...Once you have these niches you can then further develop your mindset by listing the potential needs or problems that this group may have. When you write or post or create a video, keep your target niche and their possible issues in mind the entire time. By doing this you will be more likely to be offering value to them in what you create.

Deborah Tutnauer, LCSW

I am a professional in the network marketing industry, providing support, coaching and consultation to home-based business owners who are seeking to become clearer about their goals, better organized, more efficient and better able to stay focused on their chosen path. I teach others how to be successful in the network marketing business by listening to and understanding people's needs and connecting them with systems and services that fulfill those needs. I also offer consultation on choosing the company with the best fit. My consulting/mentoring services are offered free of charge. I have multiple income streams and share opportunities and products with those who ask. I am always thrilled to spend time helping another person get a good handle on this industry. For me, it is not whether or not they join my opportunity, it is whether or not they find the success and level of achievement that they are desiring.

Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.

Self Confidence Formula

I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice; therefore, I will engage in no transaction that does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use and the cooperation of other people.

I will allow others to serve me because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness and cynicism by developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative attitude towards others can never bring me success.

I will cause others to believe in me because I will believe in them and in myself.


Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.

I'm A Twitter

It's official... I'm a twitter. I did not think it would happen to me, but it did. I started out shy, willingly taking a backseat to everyone else.... Just looking at conversations, seeing if there were any that I could identify with.

So then I would just reply to a conversation with a "LOL" if I thought something was funny. Maybe adding a couple words here and there. And before I could blink my eye, I was tweeting my own messages without even having someone ask me a question.

I now jump in conversations on my own....I create my own close network of individuals that I am interested in. Or that have similar backgrounds as myself. Or that just plain got to me... LOL.
You really do establish relationships here. There are those that can and will help you as well as being able to help someone else out that needs it. And isn't that what relationships are based on?

Sure, I believe you can sign up for twitter and start following every single person you see. And end up with 10,000 followers in a few days. But I chose not to do that. I wanted to keep those with similar interests in my circle. Plus, it's hard to manage all those followers.. No matter how good at multitasking I am... LOL.

So I am going to name a few other members of twitter that have touched me in one way or another. People I choose to follow because they made a difference with me. And when you sign up, you definitely will want to follow them as well.

@realandrews - for all the positive he gives out....I'm sure he's tired of hearing this, but he was on General Hospital. Check him out, you will know who he is. (let me clarify this) I was following him before I knew who he was.

@itsallsuccess - what a wonderful lady. It was her taking time with me that made me realize that this was someone I could become friends with.

@barefoot_exec - this lady is amazing. If I did not have my own business, I would follow her. She is what I already am and what I want to be.

@Steveweber - this is the man that took time with me as well to go over things I don't know about.. He holds a great call and really explains things.

@unmarketing - What can I say? I know all the ladies would say the same... He is the Jedi of Viral Marketing. But that's not what got me to follow him. It was his confidence, sense of humor and even when I thought he did not get what I was saying, he took time and DM'd me back.

@DaivRawks - the first person that got me to read what he wrote and take the time to reply to some of his posts....Very smart, interesting and funny. I'm a follower for life.

@Mike_Wesely - this guy seems to know everything about twitter and so much more. I have been in on a couple shows he holds and walked away with alot more know-how re: twitter. He's the man to see.

@DaveMalby - my favorite online DJ..... He keeps me going through the music he plays and the sense of humor he has.

There are more to mention, however, I am making a post... Not a book... LOL....I just hope the folks on twitter do realize that they can touch a person in any way.. And I am one of them touched by your tweets.

Word to the wise: No matter how slow you enter twitterverse, no matter how long it takes you to jump into a conversation and no matter how hard you resist... You will be sucked into twitterville. Go ahead and try to fight it.



Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.

Keys To Being A Great Leader

Develop a service attitude

Service is the lifeblood of any organization

It's not a department--It's an attitude

Love what you do

Many things will catch your eye, but few will catch your heart

Focus on Priorities

Focus on the critical few not the insignificant many.



Understand the soft touch

Care

There are few things more powerful than money or sex

"Praise and Recognition"

Embrace Humor and Optimism

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement

Excellence is not an act-- It's a Habit

Take Risks and don't be afraid to fail go out on a limb

That's where the fruit is.

You'll always miss 100% of the shots you don't' take

Reinforce Core Values

Things that matter most must NEVER be at the mercy of things that matter least.

Earn Trust

Trust, not technology, is the issue of the decade.

Take Action

You cannot discover new oceans if you don't lose site of the shore

Take Action

Lose sight of the shore

Aim for the Heart Because

They don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.



Cindy Ashworth is a single mom, working her way to become a full time work at home mom. Cindy is the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.

The power that signals success is the power of your mind.


Cindy Ashworth is a single mom, working her way to become a full time work at home mom. Cindy is the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

Articles written in this blog by Cindy Ashworth are the sole property of Cindy Ashworth and permission is needed for duplication.